Rediscovering You
Perusing Pinterest one night I came across a quote by Lalah Delia that read … “She remembered who she was and the game changed.” I couldn’t help but smile.
It was the first time in a long time that I felt like I was myself again. I knew what I wanted (or at least I was starting to figure it out.) It wasn’t always that way. For a long time I was lost.
When I started my career, my vision for my future used to be so clear. I wanted to be an executive for a retailer, I wanted to live in a big, fancy house and I really wanted a family. I wanted to HAVE IT ALL and I wanted to DO IT ALL. I knew it wouldn’t be easy but I wasn’t afraid to work for it.
Before long, I was accomplishing these goals. I married my college sweetheart, had 3 kids and started climbing my way up the corporate ladder, but something was missing. I wanted nothing more than to feel the passion for my career that I once had. The scariest part was, I didn’t know how to get it back. I assumed that I was in the wrong job…so I changed positions. That would help for a short while, but before long I was bored again. I started thinking it was the company so I looked for a new job at other companies but there was nothing that excited me. I was so confused. Did I choose the wrong career? I found myself in my mid-thirties thinking “I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.”
The real problem? I didn’t have a sense of purpose. I had achieved the things that I originally set out to and I was going through the motions with life, with my career. I never set a new end game. It was such a simple notion. Just like being lost while driving in car, I felt lost in life because I didn’t know where I was going. Why didn’t I realize this earlier? I needed new goals that inspired me and I needed to rediscover my “why.”
This isn’t something that can occur overnight. It’s a process. It requires thought. It requires reflection. Start by asking yourself “Who do you want to be? What do you want to be known for? What makes you happy? What makes you fill fulfilled?” Think about these things and be open to finding the answers. You will be amazed all the places you find inspiration from if you are open to it.
And don’t forget to write it down! You’re not going to sort this out in your head in an organized fashion. It’s going to come to you little by little, so having a collection of all these inklings in one place will be helpful.
Are you ready to remember who you are? Commence reflecting 🙂